I Have Infertile
My inner grammar-marm is not happy with this post title. She keeps telling me “No.. the CORRECT way to say it is ‘I AM infertile’. We’ve had a ‘discussion’ and currently she’s in the corner with her mouth taped shut. Here’s my argument: ‘I am infertile’ is definite. It’s personal. It claims to encompass everything about me. It is a liar. I am not infertile. I have challenges with fertility. I also have a...
Read MoreNew Year, New Choices
I’m not a fan of NY’s resolutions – I feel like it sets myself up for failure, not to mention highlighting all the things that I want to change about myself or my circumstances. Then I thought about it in a moment of reflection and realised that’s what I’m doing anyway. I’ve been pushing myself to do so much in the last 6 months. I had to. Things needed to be done, and I needed something to keep me busy for a while to distract myself from grieving. Then...
Read MoreKids’ gifts from an Infertile
While discussing Christmas practicalities with my husband, like how many people we are having over, what we will eat and how we are going to work it so that we are not forced to eat dust after buying presents, my sense of humour got a little warped again. We decided to buy presents for the kids only. This said, present shopping for children is not a friendly experience for infertiles. First of all, the territory is usually surrounded by kids. Secondly, what the heck do we...
Read MoreGetting through a loss
Almost 4 months ago, I suffered a personal tragedy that had nothing to do with fertility and it left me reeling. My mom was murdered two weeks after I suffered my 10th miscarriage (I was almost at the end of my first trimester, and had seen the heartbeat 3 times, so this was one of the worst miscarriages for me). I found myself in a state of surrealism, almost as though I was having an out of body experience, and I decided that I was not able to do this on my own. Instead of following my...
Read More5 Traumatic Lessons
I’ve been very quiet lately in the virtual world. The last few months have been absolute mayhem, with my mom dying, dealing with police investigations, newspapers, estate stuff (I’m an only child), renovating and moving house. For the last 5 months, I have been running on adrenaline and it hit me the other day when I realised, in a fit of backlogged emotional outbursts, that I have not allowed myself any time to really process this all. I have neglected my self-nurturing,...
Read MoreShould prisoners be entitled to ART?
I started writing this post a day before I found my mom in a coma after being attacked. She never recovered, and so this post became a much more personal issue for me – on one hand, I’m the surviving victim of a crime, and on the other hand, I’m a proponent of the right for everyone to have the ability to conceive. This is what I wrote originally, and I have added my thoughts afterwards. I was reading an article on BioNews today about the controversy around assisted...
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