5 Traumatic Lessons
I’ve been very quiet lately in the virtual world. The last few months have been absolute mayhem, with my mom dying, dealing with police investigations, newspapers, estate stuff (I’m an only child), renovating and moving house. For the last 5 months, I have been running on adrenaline and it hit me the other day when I realised, in a fit of backlogged emotional outbursts, that I have not allowed myself any time to really process this all. I have neglected my self-nurturing, and part of that is blogging. If I were to coach myself as though I were a totally new...
Read MoreThe art of grieving
I read a beautiful and very apt comment on a BabyLoss forum on Facebook today, – “….but I am jealous of those who carry ’tissue-paper’ crosses when mine is more like cement.” ~Lori Ennis~ I had already begun writing this post, but it sort of just tied everything together for me, because Lori summed up what most of us are feeling – the burden of private intimate suffering that seems to be heavier than anything anyone else is going through. It seems to be human nature to classify and categorise things, and then to judge them accordingly. ...
Read MoreShould prisoners be entitled to ART?
I started writing this post a day before I found my mom in a coma after being attacked. She never recovered, and so this post became a much more personal issue for me – on one hand, I’m the surviving victim of a crime, and on the other hand, I’m a proponent of the right for everyone to have the ability to conceive. This is what I wrote originally, and I have added my thoughts afterwards. I was reading an article on BioNews today about the controversy around assisted reproduction for prisoners. This is a topic that seems to stir up quite a lot of emotive responses. ...
Read More5 Mistakes I Made As A Miscarrier…
Infertility and miscarriage are tough to endure. They change our lives and alter our perspective and behaviors. They change our habits and shake up our relationships. They can leave us feeling empty and lost. I made a number of mistakes in the beginning part of my journey, and I’m pretty sure I’m not alone.. 1. Giving up control Once diagnosed with fertility challenges, I set about trying to ‘solve’ the problem. I researched causes and possible cures. I found doctors and medical teams to help me achieve my goals. I went on a mission, ruled by the...
Read MoreHow to Inject Clexane
What is Clexane? Clexane is an injectable form of heparin – an anticoagulant prescribed to people with antiphospholipid syndrome, Hughes Syndrome, clotting issues. It prevents clots and thins the blood slightly, helping to prevent some forms of miscarriage. If you are prescribed Clexane, you will need to inject it just under the skin (subcutaneously). There are a number of things that can help you do this with minimal trouble or discomfort. What you will need Clexane injection Water Cottonwool A ‘sharps’ box for the used injections. Preparation for the...
Read MoreBook Review: Silent Sorority, by Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos
This a moving and brutally honest first-hand account of a woman’s entry into the Silent Sorority of infertility. Pamela writes in a captivating way, covering the difficult topics of assisted reproduction, relationship stress, miscarriage, and adoption. I loved the way she includes practical information about the processes of IVF and adoption. She includes other women’s stories around adoption, highlighting that adoption is neither a replacement nor a panacea for having your own kids. Pamela also elucidates society’s role in the shame that women feel when they...
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