For most people, the two week wait between ovulation/transfer and the pregnancy test is the most stressful time. Once the two lines come up, they’re in the clear and free to celebrate their pregnancy.
For those who have suffered pregnancy loss, however, this is the beginning of the anxiety. We constantly check our HCG Levels, toilet paper and anxiously monitor ourselves for changes in the level of nausea, breast tenderness, or exhaustion. What normal people would classify as a good day (ie. no nausea/cramping/falling asleep at the table), people who have suffered pregnancy loss see as a possible sign of miscarriage.
Is there a way to stop being anxious?
Besides knowing what to look out for, relaxation techniques and various stress management techniques can help ease the anxiety. Recognizing the source of your anxiety, and acknowledging your fears also helps. Talk about it, and find someone who can reassure you when you’re feeling panicky. Coaching can help you to come to terms with your previous loss and to provide something for you to focus on so that you are not obsessing about your pregnancy fears.
Don’t fight the feeling
Emotions can’t be repressed successfully. They’re sneaky, and if you don’t give them your attention, they will find other ways to make themselves heard (like physically). When you find yourself feeling something, pay attention, even if you think you ‘shouldn’t’ be feeling this way. There is no such thing as a wrong way to feel. If the emotion is not getting you anywhere, and you can’t seem to shake it, you may benefit from fertility coaching.
You may want to have a look at my post on miscarriage, to read about some of the causes, diagnoses and statistics. If you are wondering whether to share the news, check out my post on telling people that you’re pregnant.
If you have any other tips on how to find your inner peace when you’re anxious – let us know.